As part of the Getting Things Done methodology, David Allen talks about the martial arts concept of having a Mind Like Water. I was talking to a friend the other day about it. I mangled the quote at the time Jules, so here is the actual quote:
Imagine throwing a peddle into a still pond. How does the water respond? The answer is, totally appropriately to the force and mass of the input; then it returns to calm. It doesn’t over-react or under-react.
– David Allen
Zendictive has a better version of the parable. And some advice on controlling feelings.
From Zen Psychiatry, the STOP acronym:
Stop when you realise you’re about to get hijacked by your reaction.
Take a Breath
Observe how your body is reacting.
Proceed when you’ve done the first three (STO)